The Power Mid Day Nap(Qailulah) Boosts Your productivity

Recently I came across the Sunnah of Qailulah (Mid-Day Nap) and its benefits on the human body.

Since childhood, I have witnessed many around me doing it on a regular basis. An aunt of mine is very obsessive with Qailulah that she want every other person including kids to lie down with her and nobody is even allowed to tap the door at that period but my mindset is at 90 Degree away from her. I always considered Qailulah as a waste of time (God Forbid) and I was under the impression that I can complete a number of chores in that period.

1.QAILULAH With the Islamic Perspective.

Now, have been learned that Qailulah is encouraged in Islam & & our beloved Prophet(SWT) and his companions practiced it regularly for rejuvenation of energy, memory enhancement and relaxation of mind, I, deliberately give it a chance to be part of my daily schedule, snoozing for more than an hour.

I usually get up in the late afternoon thinking that my mind will be more alert and vigilant followed by the brilliant day ahead as they are all the known benefits of the siesta/Qailulah. But to my surprise, a cloud of fizziness hover my mind and I felt more tired than before the shut-eye episode. Infect it has messed up with my night sleep pattern and overall affected my productivity.

I was awestruck and puzzled there must be something cheesy with my shut eye episode as the hadith of the Prophet can't be wrong.

Now as you know, confusion leads to queries and investigation, I began to enquire about the Qailulah bounties and its effects. As far as I begin to know, the butterflies from my mind begin to fly.

Generally, a third of our life is spent on sleeping \ snoozing unless suffering from the sleep disorder. Sleep and its architecture are just recently pondered over by the Neuroscientists but it has remained an important topic in the Islamic literature, even the sleep manners are dealt in detail (which needs another post). Sleep is considered as one of the greatest signs of Allah (SWT) to ponder over.

2. Nap Lounges:

Midday napping (Qailulah) is also a cross-cultural practice. A Chinese company has recently implemented to have a mid-day half hour sleep necessary for its employees because it leads to surprisingly increase the productivity causing the day to divide into two productive halves.

Recently Nap lounges have been set up in the corporate hub of Hong Kong for 15 min to an hr long duration. Sleep has the beneficial effects on the person of all ages. Recent studies conducted in University Burkley, Harvard and the University of Athens states that a midday nap boosts brain power, benefit mental health and decrease the risk of Heart disease and helps in increase the intelligence.                

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Infograph: IRREGULAR BLEEDING.

As  Ramadan is just about to unfold all its blessings and advantages, more and more women with intimate issues like irregular cycles/ bleeding, pregnancy, painful periods, breastfeeding and fasting are surrounded by a series of doubts. Most commonly they are perplexed about their fast and any loss in the indulgence of the spiritual awakening in the holy month of RAMADAN due to the cycle disturbances and irregular bleeding.

As a physician, the most debated questions put by the women are:

Are we fit enough to fast with Pregnancy?
Will fasting have any effect on the production of milk?
Older women are mostly concerned about any episodes of spotting/ bleeding which may happen in Ramadan.

But the most awestruck are the young women having a MISSED PERIOD or an episode of IRREGULAR BLEEDING and assuming themselves to be pregnant.

What quantifies a physician’s role is the fact that these women also want to know the ISLAMIC RULINGS about the issue at first hand.

Recently, a newlywed girl with delayed periods came up for the confirmation of pregnancy and left with a heavy heart when she was told that her period irregularity is not because of conception but something else.

Al-Baqarah.

ISLAMIC RULINGS:


As mentioned above, most of the women insist on having the valid Islamic Rulings regarding their FAST and PERIOD IRREGULARITIES. As I am not an Islamic Scholar, I used to guide them to the Islamic JURISPRUDENCE sites for their issues. What I ensure them is the fact that SHARIAH rulings are built on consideration of differences between Individuals, Kindness and Gentleness. (Allah knows the Best)



According to By Sh. Muhammad al-Hassan Wali al-Dido al-Shanqiti
        women are presented with a number of issues that meet the               requirements of hardships like pregnancy, nursing,                          menstruation and irregular vaginal blood flow and it influences        the ruling related to purity, prayer and fasting….
you can read more here. (Allah knows the Best)

MEDICALLY:

We are all aware of the fact that the most common cause of MISSED PERIOD is PREGNANCY but also many of the causes of missed period could be due to any pathology other than pregnancy leading to IRREGULARITY in periods. It is a common complaint among women significantly affecting their quality of life.

According to the report published in the Journal of Clinical Endocrinology and Metabolism, missed periods over an extended period of time (Amenorrhea), is a relatively common condition that is present in up to 5% of adult women at any time.

Wait! Before digging into the irregular periods and their causes we must first get clear about what the normal or regular periods are?

NORMAL PERIODS:

Approximately every month, there is bleeding from the vagina when the lining of the womb sloughs off if the egg released from the ovary is not met with the sperm (the male unit of fertility). This is called as MENSTRUAL PERIOD or period.

It is usually scheduled after every 21 to 35 days, lasting for 2 to 7 days.

There are certain important things to be known about the period.

1. The LENGTH.

It is the number of days from one cycle to another counted from the first day of bleeding. Any length from 21 to 35 days are considered normal.

2. The QUANTITY.

Classically, it is about 20 to 60 ml(as written in the textbooks), but this measure is of no value for the household women; so practically it is something about 3 to 4 pads soaked per day. Remember not oversoaked.

3. The QUALITY:

The blood is usually bright red to light red in color.

IMPORTANT FOR REGULAR PERIODS:

But what is important is that the parameters for regular periods written above do not fit for all females. Rather, every woman should make a note of their own cycle, its length, flow every month and anything considered aberrant from this is taken as abnormal for that women.

IRREGULAR PERIODS.

For a regular cycle, experts usually take the length of the cycle alone as the parameter for the regularity. Accordingly, the cycle is said to be regular if it falls on the same date only with the variation of 1-3 days. So if somebody is experiencing vaginal bleeding apart from the expected periods than it may be due to some abnormality. After excluding pregnancy and menopause, there are no other normal happening which causes the periods to be irregular, missed or delayed.


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Ten jewels earned from a decade of happy marriage

10 JEWELS

Being a young girl, I repeatedly had to listen to such statements:

“Whatever you study, one day you have to get married and do the household chores.”

I used to ignore it as much as I could. After the bone-breaking study of Medicine- with all work and no play schedule; cramming all the boring details of Anatomy, and memorizing the depths and details of a tangled human brain- there came a time when I had to tie a knot with somebody and leave all my books. Then, I had to start from the scratch and set foot in the sea of whole new experiences and learning. The Anatomy and Biochemistry that had become a part and parcel of my life got replaced by the study of kitchen management and hacks.

My married life is now ten years old, and a proud feather is added to my marriage cap. I have realized that marriage has more meaning to it. It is a pact of making your sharp corners round.

According to Mufti Ibrahim Desai, in a recipe for a successful marriage (1):

“There can be no doubt in the success of a marriage governed by the fear of Allah (SWT).”

Hence, I don’t celebrate marriage anniversaries by parties or hip-hop; but I do celebrate by pondering over the lessons that I had learned during that year and store them in my memory. Each year, I implement those lessons into my life to get more happiness and success. My secret of a blissful marriage is based on the following lessons.

Silence is the best medicine

It is very usual to have differences, but to remain calm and composed is an art which is achieved through excellent self-control tactics. Arguing, at times of conflict, can make the situation worse by letting the Satan enter into it.

It has been narrated by Abu-Said Al-Khudri, the Prophet (saw) said:

“He, who is humble, for the sake of Allah (SWT) by a degree, Allah (SWT) will elevate him one degree, until he reaches the highest degrees; and he, who is arrogant toward Allah (SWT), Allah (SWT) will lower him one degree until he reaches the lowest of low degrees.”

The very first thing that took me to the tantrums after my marriage was the late night schedule of my husband’s job. As my father was a government officer, we used to enjoy the evening tea with him at home. When I shared that with my hubby, I used to get a mind-blowing lecture of office responsibilities and problems. Now, what I have done best is to pray to Almighty Allah (SWT), and remain silent. The next year my hubby changed the job in which he had the facility to return back home early from office, and could work from home. Thus, silence helped me keep a peaceful environment at home and fulfill my dream through prayers.

Conquer via Love

Love is the language which everybody understands. Showing constant gratitude and love takes your hubby to the Mount Everest of his self-esteem. He, in turn, showers you with the same.

To err is human, forgiveness is divine

Females have a 967432 GB of memory, and at any little issue, they open up the historical book of complaints which ignites the never ending argument. I used to avoid it imagining a large number of women ungrateful to their husbands, burning in the Hellfire. (Astaghfirullah)

It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Abbas ( RA) that the Messenger of Allah (saw) said: “I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.”
They said: “Why, O Messenger of Allah (saw)?” He said: “Because of their ingratitude (Kufr).” It was said: “Are they ungrateful to Allah (SWT)?” He said: “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime, then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say: ‘I have never had anything good from you.’” (Bukhari)

The Foolish secret

I know this is difficult to apply for many of us, but believe me, it works. I used to surprise my hubby by listening to common talks with great astonishment. It is a secret which I apply regularly and keeps my relationship filled with joy.

Invest in your relationship

Sharing lovely gifts and words, add up the strength to my life and fuel up my passion for living together. A beautifully wrapped present leaves a long lasting effect on the heart of your hubby- it will never be a waste!

  ------ You can Read complete article from Hiba Magazine  --------

Granny, The Wonderful women.

When I gave birth to my first child, I was really really dumb about the newborn care, not only because I have become the mommy for the first time but because the newborn is the pre-termer also. Her birth was through the C-section conducted in the emergency Department and was immediately shifted to the NICU after coming to this world.

Granny,My best friend.

After growing under the NICU Docs and cared by the nurses for a week, she is finally strong enough to breathe in the fresh air on its own. As I am never a Baby person, the test on my part begins. I really don't have the slightest idea even how to hold the pre-termer baby. I was taught the Basics by the loving nursing staff there but still I am in the need of constant support 24/7 after the discharge from the hospital.

But thanks to Almighty, she has been blessed with the awesome granny who is ready to ride with us on the parenting Bandwagon and being there for all the Emotional and Physical Support.That was really a tough time as the routine for the Preterm is quite different from the term child but my Baby is very brave to face all the temperature variations she had been thru in the first few weeks of life assisted by the granny and the docs at the emergency visits. The road to life isn't easy for her, there are many stumbles which she was crossing successfully and slowly, making a steady progression.

Yet, the hard time has to come when I joined the part-time duty. Now, again I need the granny to care for my little Cutie Pie to conquer the front of the part-time working Mother.

With the Kids in sight, she has to play many roles from the feeder to the playmate and the lovely supervisor also. Some of her best entertaining areas are,

1. She is an awesome cook, prepares all kinds of scrumptious dishes to please their grandkids, never ever mind to cook instantly anything their grandchildren asked for. She is especially good at cooking Sweets.
2. Granny is always best at dealing with the tantrums.She uses different tactics to deal with the meltdown by offering a joke or a favorite drink. She knows by experience the controlling button of the kids.
3. If any of her grandkids got sick, she has the whole bucket of Natural remedies and potions and avoids using the Allopathic pills.
4. Usually, my sweetheart had her garments stitched long before the festivals because her granny is the first to think about what she will wear on that occasion and shop for her.
5. As we all live in the digital world...my activities with the kids revolve around smartphones and other gadgets but the Granny always favors the conventional activities for kids both indoor and outdoor like book reading, Board Games, Ball Throw etc.
6. Whenever any baby has a fall or bumped the door she is the one to show up first and offer for help bringing warm milk with turmeric.
7. However, in normal circumstances, she is a patient, suffering from multiple diseases of the back and limbs, but for kids, she is the most active and become their best friend forgetting all her pains.
8. What my kiddo admires her most is that she is never ever in a hurry, always allow the kids to take their time while tieing shoes, pulling up pants.
9. A granny's lap is a place where the kids use to hide their mischiefs. She always favors her whatever the fault is and my dear one knows it quite well how to get all the sympathies.
10. With the grandkids around, she never minds that her normal live come to a halt while she devotes herself to the kids,cherishing every moment of their company.

So without the granny, my kidoo won't be having so much special in her life, as they are taught to be great human beings which I alone can't achieve.

Thank You Granny.

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Book Review: Unleashing Your Creativity By Majid

I have given this opportunity to review a short guide by Majid Mehmood, business consultant titled :

Unleashing Your Creativity: A short guide to becoming more creative 

Author : Majid Mehmood.

Although I am not a life coach or a mentor but anything related to creativity fascinates me a lot. I instantly got inspired when any creative piece of work rolled in front of my eyes so this book instantly got my attention.

It is a short book, consisting of 53 pages altogether  covering the topic in 9 Chapters, each chapter begins with an ambitious quote, inspiring the reader to move on .

Unleashing your Creativity.

In the initial Chapter , the author keeps the readers engrossed with different definitions of creativity as it is the process of materializing the idea into the product by tapping into your creative potential. He supports creativity  because to have fun without thoughts, thinking obstacles as opportunities to enhance the brain activity, nurturing new neural pathways and overall increasing the productivity.

Perfectionism, Procrastination, Fear, Anxiety, Guilt are the hurdles to the creative potential. They will not allow your Imagination to get working. Give wings to your Imagination. Get inspired and motivated by the sources of positive energy around you. your books, your parents.

“The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.” 

                           ― Sylvia Plath.

Enemy of Creativity.

He also shares two methods of tapping the Creative Potential,

1. PIRI MODEL.

2. DRCBRI MODEL.

Both of them begins with drafting down all the thoughts and imagination, then constant editing and reviewing to bring out a unique product, asking the why's, where's in between. In the last chapter, he beautifully defines ways to remain creative in our capacity.

The essence of this short guide is to allow yourself to play with your Imagination and challenge your copy paste Lifestyle, grow your hunger to do something New, something Creative , something that is Different. Make it a fun habit of yours. Sooner or Later you will be on the pinnacle of Productivity.

“Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will.” 

― George Bernard Shaw

Imagination is the beginning of Creativity.

You can purchase the book here

Cancer! You Need To Know (INFOGRAPH)

Why most of us are afraid of cancer?
Isn't it like any other disease?
Why chills run down our spine when we heard someone suffering from cancer?

Well , probably , because many of us have lost our near and dear one's whilst struggling bravely or surrendering quietly against cancer. Cancer has become the source of instant terror.

1. Cancer has a resemblance with the CRAB.

Cancer, a greek word for crab, resembles a lot with the crabby way of life. As everybody of us is familiar with the way the crab drag itself forward. First, it put one tentacle forward then pull the other forward making a calculated progression. Likewise, cancer is hosted by one part of the body, slowly and gradually spreading its pincers to other vital organs thus getting control of the whole body.

2. "I can, We can".

Every year 4th February is dedicated to the cancer patients and its survivors, "I can, We can", the theme, dedicate this day how we can work alone and together to curb the fear associated with cancer. Educating the public by raising awareness and spreading the right information helps in nullifying the stigma surrounding it.

Although Cancer is always considered fatal, yet 28 million cancer survivors are bringing hope and light to the scenario. Most of the deaths can be averted by simply pushing ourselves on the roads of healthy habits. Scientists at the World Cancer Research Fund believe that just 25 minutes of moderate exercise can reduce the risk of a significant number of cancers.

The recent debate is about to cure Cancer by simply alkalizing the body by eating more Fruits and Vegetables, opting for the calcium-rich diet rather than go for the agonizing Chemotherapy supporting the multi-millionaire Pharmaceutical companies.

3. Cancer! You Need To Know.

Following are the some common facts and figures that help you better aware and understand the Cancer ........

Methadone: Is It The Answer For A Pregnant Heroin Addict?

What are the long-term effects of babies born addicted to methadone?

Is Methadone a substitute for Heroin?

Is it safe to use during pregnancy?

These are the most common queries asked by the mothers about Methadone Maintenance Therapy. Also, there are a whole other bunch of controversies surrounding the use of Methadone to combat addiction, especially its use by pregnant women. Methadone baby long term effects and the safety of the unborn child make all these questions almost necessary.

Most people discourage mothers from using methadone. Often prescribed to those battling heroin addiction, the powerful drug is not known to come without long-term side effects.

What is Methadone?

Methadone is a synthetic opioid narcotic drug, originally developed in Germany in World War 2. It was first used as a long-acting painkiller in both surgical and cancer patients. From the 1950’s onward, it has been used as a treatment for opioid addiction.

The human body produces its own opiates called Endorphins which sit on special receptors and block pain signals to the brain. Opioids also fit on the same receptors but have a more potent effect. Methadone acts by occupying these receptors and relieving many symptoms of Opioid withdrawal. That’s why it is usually prescribed to expecting mothers who are struggling to give up their drug habits.

Heroin and Methadone

Methadone is a last gasp effort as far as treatment and prescription by a health professional go. If  medical professional feels that prescribing methadone to a pregnant woman will be more in the favor of her health, it means that the benefits outweigh the risk. You have to remember heroine addiction is nasty, methadone may also be nasty, but it is still better than heroine.

According to the National Institute of Health, for pregnant women, it is much safe to use Methadone than to continue with their heroin habit.

As one mother addicted to methadone stated “Heroin is too unpredictable and too lethal also, we struggle with it”.

In pregnancy, a number of over the counter, prescribed and illegal drugs are not allowed but methadone is safe to use. Long-term effects of babies born addicted to methadone are pretty much unheard of.

Although notorious for causing NAS (Neonatal Abstinence Syndrome), the long-term effects of babies born addicted to methadone are not major. Risks to the unborn child such as spontaneous abortions, low birth weight, and developmental delays are common in heroin addicts and can’t really be attributed to methadone.

Heroin users also share needles which put the fetus at risk of contacting various infectious diseases like HIV, Hep C, and AIDS, etc.

Methadone Maintenance Therapy (MMT)

With careful monitoring, methadone can be prescribed long term for the elimination of cravings for illegal and harmful opioids like Heroin. The most effective methodology for the treatment is to combine methadone use with counselling but it requires the patient to come to the clinic daily for their methadone dose. Sometimes this daily hassle is off-putting, but it is better to have methadone baby long term effects rather than heroine baby effects.

You can read further from the following link:

http://justhealthlifestyle.com/long-term-effects-of-babies-born-addicted-to-methadone/

Mother Earth Day 2016 : Saving Our Environment

Every year we celebrate mother Earth Day on 22^nd of April, to protect our planet we are residing.
Do you know that we are very near to observe the 50^th Mother Earth Day?

But the Question is why we need to observe this?

Why are we making so much effort, raising awareness, arranging walks, voting for the need of prompt action?

Why?

The simplest answer is

We are guilty.

Yes! You got it right, we are guilty of being cruel to our environment, bringing destruction to our home, to our own living place. We have interrupted the balance of the ecosystem provided by nature. With our obsession of Industrialization, we have forgotten our living partners, our Natural friends, the bounties nature has provided us.

Now, as a result, we have to admit that 2015 is the hottest year up to date, the airway diseases have risen strikingly, the frequent sore throats, the more heat stroke cases. These are all the gifts of bizarre global changes brought by us. Climatologists have warned that if no appropriate action is taken, these changes will become irreversible.

We have not only become hazardous to ourselves but has also brought danger to our animal friends. They play a significant role in maintaining the balance of life. The list of the endangered species is on the rise. The recent animal on the verge of extinction is Javan Tigers, the others include Indus Dolphins, Snow leopard, Giant Panda, Musk Deer to name a few. They got killed vicariously by choking, the lack of food and habitat, various diseases, (not to mention the excessive and unlawful hunting).

Well, some of our animal friends have taken a leap and become a warrior to heal the damage we have done to our Mother Earth. They not only provide help by maintaining a balance in the ecosystem but also extend a hand to clean the garbage.

In the following video, you can see a site filled with garbage and the cows surrounding them.  It is a part of their daily stroll, together these cows wander to find any leftovers, any organics, gulping them down bravely offering their help to decrease the trash, to start the first step of recycling by separating any organic leftovers.

But what are we giving them in return?

More trash, more dirt, less grass, less healthy food, more inappropriate living conditions.

It is high time that we should come out of the shell and take a look around to the havoc we have created yet nature is so patient that it keeps alarming us with the hottest weather, with more storms, with illnesses, continuously knocking to pay heed.
Are we listening to these calls?

Natural Remedies For Blood Clots That Have No Side Effects

Blood, the fuel running our body, has been doing a marvelous job since we were born.  It is flowing smoothly throughout, transporting nutrients to the body cells, helping in sustaining life. 


Blood makes up about 8% of the body weight. The role of the blood in our life is notoriously overlooked, but when we get a cut or any other injury, it is the components in blood which form the clot preventing unnecessary loss of blood. A clot is simply an amalgamation of red blood cells and other cell components which build up at the site of injury to stop the flow. 


When this blood clots within a vessel, all of these things stop happening. In fact, this might be life threatening since the blood clots may clog the arteries and block blood supply to the vital organs like the Heart or the Brain. Natural remedies for blood clots can help.There are some natural blood thinners that may help.


Usually blood clots are healthy and have the purpose of stopping excessive bleeding. But sometimes too much clotting can be a sign of deeper and more painful health problems.

Risk Factors for Blood Clots

Excessive blood clots or blood clots forming without reason can happen due to a variety of reason. Risk factors associated with blood clots usually involve abnormalities in the blood conduction system caused by high cholesterol, smoking, obesity, blood disorder, liver disease, injury, surgery, family history, being bed ridden or bone fractures.

Symptoms and Presentation of Blood Clots

Symptoms of blood clots depend on their location, whether they are occurring in an artery or a vein, resulting in different clinical conditions.

A blood clot that is formed in an artery that supplies blood to the heart results in CVA or a Heart attack. If it causes blockage of blood to the brain, it may result in TIA or stroke.

The clinical presentation of a Venous Clot is not usually acute and may result in the feeling of warmth, swelling, redness and discoloration. In the case of Pulmonary Embolism, (when the clot formed in a distant vein causes blockage in the lung circulation) the clot can be life threatening needing emergency treatment and supervision.

These clotting abnormalities affect a great number of people each year, who spend a huge sum on the treatment strategies, both interventional and non-interventional.

By accommodating these simple natural remedies for blood clots including habits and diet changes, you can drastically reduce the risk of blood clots, and save yourself a fortune in investing in various drugs and treatments. Just commit yourself and enjoy the bounties of natural treatments for blood clots.

Keep The Clots Away Naturally (Natural Remedies For Blood Clots)

The risk of the formation of blood clots can be reduced by adopting a healthy diet and lifestyle. These are the greatest weapons against the chronic ailments and lifelong medications.

For the purpose of this article, we have classified our natural remedies for blood clots as follows:

• Blood Thinners (anticoagulants)
• Anti-oxidants
• Anti-lipids
• Lifestyle changes
• Blood Thinners (Natural Anticoagulants) 

                    Natural Remedies For Blood Clots 

There are number of natural blood thinners that will help prevent blood clots. You can red about natural blood thinners in more detail here.

1. Water consumption

Water is a very effective and underrated blood thinner. Sufficient water intake keeps your body hydrated resulting in smoother flow of blood. It also prevents the blood from clumping and the prevents the platelets from thickening, which coincidentally is the cause of clot formation.

You can read further from following link:

http://justhealthlifestyle.com/home-natural-remedies-for-blood-clots-no-side-effects/

Book Review: How to Guide Children's Behaviour.

Asalamoalikum/Good Morning

I have given this utmost opportunity by Miss Jameela Ho, M.Ed, to review her latest set of Parenting books.

                             " How to Guide Children's Behaviour"

                                                        Author:  Jameela Ho

Parenting Set by Jameela Ho.

Islam being the holistic religion encompassing every nook and corner of Life, long before the Birth of the baby to the Life hereafter. Caring and upbringing children in the proper way is an arduous task. The responsibility increases many folds if someone wishes to raise them on true Islamic Guidelines.
This parenting endeavour by Miss Jameela Ho, as a set of three Parenting Books came as a relieve for the parents all over the muslim world.

According to the Hadith,

"Each of you is a Shepherd and Each of you is responsible for his flock." (Sahih Bukhari)

A Hadith on Responsibility

The Author has come up with the this perfect guide to share the responsibility of Muslim Parents as in today's fast paced world raising a Muslim Baby is full of Challenges and Trials. She has chosen Simple words with short sentences to promote the Positivity and Good Morals.

                                                                  The Main Book

The Main Book

In her first Book, she has incorporated various modern day techniques to help the Parents raising the confident and practicing Muslims. She has beautifully amalgamated the Parenting messages from Quran And Hadith with the examples from Day to day life.

She tried to capture the parents attention by actually picturing the whole scenario with the experiences she had been thru her teaching carrier.
She has elaborated 19 working strategies to allow the parents to guide their children towards the positive behaviour and away from the negativity mentioning the corporal punishment as the last resort.
She doesnot support violence against children, to avoid this she advise to practice these strategies in a step by step manner and simply stop when the issue settles.

Being a positive parent our children can be moulded into  a compassionate yet disciplined individuals with no regrets.

                                                                 The Workbook

The workbook is in sequence with the the first book to help the Parents understand in a practical way what they have learned in the guidebook. They are encouraged to practice 22 exercises to help them execute these methods in daily life.
The beauty of this workbook is that it is exemplified by fill in the blanks type of sentences to ease the parents at various situations in their parenting journey.
for e.g
In the section of Consequences:Removal of privilege,
the sentence given is

"If you continue to ---------(behaviour) then you can't --------------(privilege) anymore.

Believe me, this makes Parenting such a fun that you enjoy Hugs and Kisses every now and then.


                                                                            The Journal

Now there comes the Journal which is to track and share your Parenting ups and downs.
A heart warming quote from the Quran, Hadith etc greets you in the beginning of each chapter. If the ample space provided filled in a proper way, this journal helps you deepen your commitment with the better Parenting and promotes positive energy bringing out a wiser and happy Parent cum friend.

Although the books don't have many pics, but the Journal is laced with various beautiful background pictures related to the topic which brings life to your thoughts and experiences. I Really love them


In the essence, these 3 books has awesome ideas for Parents in dealing with their children in a more positive, disciplined yet Islamic manner, encouraging good morals and behaviour.

I, will surely recommend this to all the mums as they are raising the future generations as well as the teachers who can also use them as a resource.

So what are you waiting for?

You can purchase this book at Muslim mommy or ilmaeducation available both in the hard copy and e-book.

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How to maximize health benefits of drinking water early morning

Most of us already know, and agree, that there are numerous health benefits of drinking water after waking up early morning. There are different point of views on whether drinking water early morning without brushing is better than after brushing, but to me, that's besides the point. Water is the simplest form of any liquid or food that we ingest. Our body is composed of 60% of water. We can survive on water, without food, for 3-4 weeks. Without water, we would perish due to dehydration within 3 days. Most of the natural fruits and vegetables, especially those with high fiber content, contain water. Besides quenching our thirst, water as has been used as therapy for many other reasons, like calming down when we are angry, controlling anxiety, getting over a panic attack, losing weight, overcoming indigestion and constipation, finding relief from headaches and heart aches (aka heart diseases) and treating liver and kidney diseases. Infact, there are studies that show that drinking water on empty stomach can lower the risk of colorectal and bladder cancers. 

But then, how much water should we drink in the morning? Some say two glasses, others say four. Japanese claim you can cure zillion of diseases by taking 4 x 160 ml glasses (about 640 ml) of drinking water on after waking up early morning. Some websites even recommend gulping down a liter of water early morning. I suggest taking as much water as one can tolerate and divide it throughout the day.

You have to be careful of water intoxication. Yes, really, you can drown in your own fluids if you are over-hydrated. And your stomach also has a limited capacity to expand in one point in time. Naturally, if you fill it too much, your stomach will hurt and you might even vomit. Listening to your body is the best thing to do. Drink slowly and as much as you can. There is no doubt that there are many benefits of drinking water after waking up, but it doesn't mean you drink all of it - the recommended 8-10 glasses a day - in one sitting. 

Why Drinking Water On Empty Stomach Is Important?

When you wake up after a long sleep, your body is naturally dehydrated. No matter how much water you drink the day before, you have used up all your stores. The body never stops working while you sleep. The heart continues pumping blood, we continue breathing and all metabolic activities continue functioning, even if it's at a slower rate. The benefits of drinking water after waking up include rehydration, boosting metabolism, giving a push to your kidneys telling them to start the day on a refreshing note. You're actually getting your body set to begin the day. Compare this to the norm of drinking a 16 oz. cup of coffee (loaded with sugar and caffeine) which can further dehydrate your already thirsty body.

Immediate, major noticeable benefits of drinking water after waking up include: 

1. Hydration:

Water is an inexpensive (or free), widely available, caffeine free and naturally low in sodium liquid ready for ingestion any time of the day. Rather than filling up on carbonated drinks, full of nutrient deficient, empty calories and or caffeinated beverages all day, making water preferable as a primary source of hydration is the best choice a person can make. Dehydration isn’t as uncommon as people might think and it comes in many forms. Dehydration doesn’t necessarily mean you’re feeling lightheaded and thirsty. Dehydration simply means the body isn’t getting the water it needs to run to its fullest.

We’re constantly losing water through urine, stool, tears, breath and sweat. Even when we are not sweating, there is some evaporation of water through our skin. We need to continue replenishing the water content of our body by sipping small amounts all day. 

Most health professionals recommend taking 8 glasses of 8 oz water all day. This is called 8x8 rule. This equals to about 2 liters of pure water, no caffeine, no sugars, no cream. 

2. Heartburn and Indigestion:

This is very simple. Heart burn and indigestion is mostly a result of increased acidity in the stomach that refluxes into the esophagus. The cause is mostly over eating, eating fast, eating spicy and oily food. Those who suffer from GERD (gastroesophageal reflux disease) are asked to sleep with their head elevated to ease the discomfort of heart burn. Drinking water early morning without brushing will push down and dilute any of the acid in the empty stomach that is waiting to cause discomfort. It will also fill up the stomach to give it a head start, so as to churn any food that is ready to come in. It is recommended to start your day with a glass of water and a heavy breakfast to keep you feeling full, fresh and active all day long. 

3. Regulate Bowel Activity:

The main cause of constipation is dehydration. Increasing water intake can help with constipation, which is a very common problem. Benefits of drinking water after waking up will not only cure dehydration but will add fluid to the colon and bulk to stools, making bowel movements softer and easier to pass. This is a great way to stimulate bowel movement. Your body depends on rhythmic contractions that occur in your colon to help move food along. These contractions depend on gastrocolic reflex, which is when you fill your stomach with food or drink, your body senses a new arrival and sends signals to your intestines to evacuate, increasing the likelihood of a bowel movement. To achieve this, water is a good calorie free choice. 

4. Glowing Skin And Shiny Hair

It has been found that adequate hydration has a profound effect on healthy skin and hair. Without water, skin would appear dull with prominent pores and wrinkles. A variety of skin structures, that support collagen build up responsible for skin elasticity, require water to work effectively. One study shows that every 500 ml (2cups) of water taken in increases blood flow to the skin, making it look radiant. Another study summarizes that drinking more than 2 L of water per day can have a significant impact on skin physiology. http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-2494.2007.00366.x/abstract

Water also increases the metabolic rate and promotes the digestive system to flush out toxins from the body. This in turn also gives you a healthy and glowing skin.

Just like our skin, hair also needs lubrication from inside out. Dehydration has a direct impact on the growth of hair. Lack of moisture results in dry and brittle hair and water is a natural miracle ingredient that supports vitamin consumption and assists in efficient and healthy hair growth. Water makes almost ¼ of the weight of a hair strand, thus, drinking 8-10 glasses of water every day will give you gleaming and healthy tresses. Our hair thrives on moisture-rich environment and water is one of the best ways to quench its thirst. 

5. Prevents Gall Stones, Kidney Stones and Bladder Infections:

Adequate water intake is known for preventing stones in gall bladder and kidneys, basically because of diluting effect. However it is essential to maintain balance between water intake and water output. Naturally we cannot count how much water is lost when we sweat, especially after a work out or some strenuous activity, so we tend to keep drinking to rehydrate. Normally, a healthy kidney has the capacity to excrete 800 ml to 1 liter of water every hour. Every 3-4 liters of fluid ingested, including water in food and other beverages will produce 2.5-3 liters of urine. So it is not recommended to take in more than 1 liter (4-6 glasses) of water in one hour as it will put load on the kidney. 

Also it is advisable to eat water rich foods like grapes, berries, melons, citrus fruits, and tomatoes etc that add to the water content in your body and limit salt intake as it tends to retain water and your urine output may not be as much as you are drinking. The more urine you pass, the better it is for kidneys and bladder infections. 

6. Water As A Superb Detox:

Another benefit of drinking water after waking up is that you provide your body with a good supply of fluid to flush out the toxic waste products of metabolism that occurred throughout the night. This cleansing process gets rid of harmful substances that could have disrupted the normal functioning of the body. Water removes toxins and waste products from the body thereby cleansing it. Water is required to process all the nutrients from the food we eat and carry the assimilated nutrients to the cells. 

7. Crucial For Weight loss: 

Drinking water is a crucial tactic when it comes to weight loss. But drinking water after waking up is the most optimal way to do it. Firstly, it purifies the colon and it improves the stomach's chances to absorb nutrients properly. A better digestive system automatically takes care of a lot of other things.  Then it kick starts your metabolism & has been proven to increase your calorie burning potential throughout the day. Not only that, but water actually fills you up & curbs your appetite, allowing you to make smarter choices for your breakfast. According to two studies, drinking 500 ml (17 oz) of water can temporarily boost metabolism by 24-30%. It is better to drink cold water to increase energy expenditure, as body will use energy (calories) to bring the water to body temperature. Researchers also estimate drinking 2 liters (68 ounces) in one day can increase energy expenditure by about 96 calories per day. Drinking water half an hour before meals can also reduce the amount of calories people end up consuming, especially in older individuals. One study showed that dieters who drank 500 ml of water before meals lost 44% more weight over a period of 12 weeks, compared to those who didn’t. Overall, it seems that drinking adequate water (especially before meals) may have a significant weight loss, especially when combined with a healthy diet.

We tend to complicate things when it comes to taking care of our health. A few simple steps can go a long way in taking care of ourselves. One easy way is by drinking sufficient water on empty stomach first thing in the morning. Not only will it clear the stomach, it will go a long way in reducing the risk of a number of diseases. The truth is water is not only a miracle cure but is also a very vital part to a person’s well being. Simply put, taking care of your body and keeping it hydrated and active, can work wonders for your health. 

10 Hilarious Happenings in the Life of a Working Mum

Wow!
Is tomorrow holiday?

This is the first reaction of none other than a working mum on hearing an unexpected, non gazetted holiday. Working Offs are the blessings for the mums who are on their heels all week round whether they used to work from home or supporting the family by some 9 to 5 job. In both cases the major load of work share falls on the weak shoulders of a mum.

Here are some funny peeps from the the life of a working mum.

Forgetful Mama:
Mornings are the most energy testing time for the family when everyone is running to get ready to reach their workplace on time. Mums who drive to their workplace themselves, often forget to put the mobile(or some other important thing.....) in their bag and reaching the midway they got to remember that  Oh ! My mobile was on the table. Now they rush back to the home, tic tacking with high heels, nearly falling to grasp the phone with an extended hand and than again racing to the car to get back to work.


Taking Selfies:
Yeah! you enjoy having selfies not only alone but with your children around, on your shoulder, pulling your cloths. Kids get tired of saying "cheese" for capturing the perfect moment but you go on. then you share the most random pic within your social circle and add a feather to your family pic scene. Don't care if it appears upside down.


Weight Watching:
Mums especially those working in corporate environment are obsessed with their looks and weight but on every holiday,believe me, every day off, they plan to dine out with the family forgetting the sweaty run on the tread mill last week. Go on Mama.


Kids Attack:
As soon a mum stepped into the home, before getting hugs and kisses, her bag is attacked by the kids vigorously searched  for any type of goodies, leftover sweets. Don't forget to buy a handful of smarties on the way home to catch the unexpected grin of your sweetie pie.


Sleep Dilemma:
Every mum must have experienced this that as soon as they are about to fall in deep sleep, the baby starts crying in high pitch voice giving you goose bumps. Now the next morning you woke up with the heavy eyes, half closed, rush to the kitchen for the mistake of  bathroom and suddenly realized this before its too late.


My Bag , My Treasure:
Most working mums like me never allow anybody to sneak peep into my hand bag as it is full of baby accessories like Bibs, Diapers, ready made Food etc. Most of the time it is turned into a heavy balloon and needs a man's space to sit, gaining people's stares.


Missing the Right Pair:
Whenever you see a woman with wrong pair of shoes or socks, don't laugh. It is reliable proof of being a working mum. You should rather run to greet her and acknowledge her effort.


Eating Disorder:
Whenever a mom gets the golden opportunity to sit down peacefully for the lunch, the kid screams to have to go for the potty. There you go, getting up half way from the lunch as you have to accompany your sweetie pie to the toilet and wait for another 10 minutes while the food on the table simply gets cold.


Day out:
Till late night, you planned to have a great weekend spending time with your kids visiting the local park which had a grand opening just a month ago, when you informed this to your kids, they get excited too and eagerly waiting for that day.But as soon as the day arrived, the weather go bad ruining all your plans. You just end up staring from the window with the kids around.

Editor at Home:
If you are a WAHM(working at home mom) you get this rare moment to catch a glimpse of your blog post, a kid appears from nowhere (read under the bed) on start clicking the keyboard with all fingers and you get this s;';.,,apsdm...mmmmmmmmm.';;0998766&^^%$%
Don't dare to stop him otherwise you are responsible for the consequences.

Do set goals, make plans. Work hard to make your dreams come true, but don't be stubborn, have a loose grip on them.
 Trust that life will carry you to your true path, cherish those little moments of joy as these golden moments of seeing your kids grow will soon become your cherished memories.

Causes Of Missed Period And Negative Pregnancy Test

********   Note: This Blog Post First Published on Just Health And Lifestyle  *********

As a lady doctor, I am often asked about a woman’s “private” issues, particularly reasons for a missed period and negative pregnancy test. At times, the lack of knowledge on show from many woman is quite frustrating for me. But you take things like these as a matter of routine and continue to inform as best you can.

Yesterday a distant relative came to visit us at lunch. As I was busy in the kitchen, she quietly approached and asked me about her missed period and negative pregnancy test. I was awestruck as I had no idea that she was going to ask me this in the kitchen. She kept eagerly waiting for my response. I had the feeling that at her age (45+) there is less chances of conception but at the same time I didn’t want to break her heart. She seemed quite hopeful. I simply reassured her, and told her to confirmation from a gynecologist to be sure.

Now I understand, that missed period and negative pregnancy test can be a very nervous situation for women. This rings true for those who want to conceive and also for those who don’t want to. It can ignite a halo of apprehensions and fears like

“I must be pregnant, there is something wrong with the test strips”

“The emotional stress I am undergoing is the culprit for this delay”

Let’s take a periscopic look at the situation and delve deeper into the causes of a missed period and negative pregnancy test.

Causes of Missed Period And Negative Pregnancy Test

When you are not Pregnant

When you are not pregnant but still have late period, a missed period and negative pregnancy test, it could be due to the following reasons:

1.      Irregular Cycles

Many woman don’t have the regular monthly cycles leading to delays which is normal pattern for them.

2.      Stress

Anxiety is also responsible for delaying the onset of period. The uterine wall will shed down late due to thickness of the endometrium.

Regular exercise and healthy diet can cure it.

3.      Weight

Over and underweight females can also suffer from the menstruation irregularities due to hormonal imbalance.

4.      Vigorous exercise

Vigorous exercise causing stress on the reproductive system may prevent the period altogether.

5.      Medicines

Birth control medicines and implants, Antidepressants, Chemotherapy drugs all cause cycle irregularity leading to miss periods.

6.       Premenopause

The rise in FSH (Follicle stimulating hormone) as you reach a certain age can cause delay and irregularities in your cycle.

7.      Breast Feeding Mother

Breast feeding mothers may experience late periods or no periods at all due to the increase of prolactin in their bodies.

8.      Thyroid Disorder

Both Hypo and Hyper thyroid patients suffer from periods which are not only irregular but with an altered flow (Heavy and Light)

9.      Uterine Abnormalities

Polyps, cysts, fibroids all contribute to the physical cause of late periods in women suffering from those diseases.

10.  PCOS

Polycystic ovarian syndrome is a condition which affects the egg producing ability of the ovaries due to hormonal imbalance. It can lead to a missed period and negative pregnancy test too.

You can learn more about PCOS here

When you are Pregnant

If you are of a reproductive age who is sexually active and experiencing pregnancy symptoms like nausea, altered sense of smell, tender nipples but had a missed period and negative pregnancy test, it is most probably due to a wrong pregnancy test i.e False –ve.

What is False Negative?

False negative is when you are experiencing pregnancy signs and symptoms but the test literally negates any conception. The causes of false negatives are:

1.      The test strip has lower sensitivity

Some tests are more sensitive to hCG (pregnancy hormone) levels compared to others. If it comes negative initially, it is suggested to repeat the test in few days.

2.      Urine is not of correct composition

The urine sample which was tested is either too dilute due to increased water intake. Or the test was done at the wrong time of the day.

It is highly recommended that you use early morning pee as it contains the highest concentration of hCG.

3.      The improper use of Testing kit

The instructions on the testing kit leaflet may have not been followed properly leading to a false negative. Once again, it is best to retest in a few days.



There are many reasons for the late periods. Most irregular periods causes are not at all dangerous and can be easily treated. The best thing to do is to visit your gynecologist if the issue persists.